Can’t experience sex sober

“I can have orgasms. My problem is that only feel the “urge” or want to have sex when I am drunk. I never get excited or turned on sober. I am 31 and I hate this! I should be able to feel and experience sex sober. It s wrecking all my relationships.”

A: From our understanding and research, experiencing the feelings associated with sex has a lot to do with our minds. Many things could get in the way of experiencing those feelings during sex, such as stress, worries, distractions, etc. We would suggest taking some of the pressure off of yourself and try not to think about how you cannot get excited or turned on while sober. More times than not, the less you worry about it, the better it should get. Other than that, you can always double check with a nurse or physician to make sure everything is okay!