WAYS TO DEVELOP A CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM
o Emphasize the good children do.
o Notice a child’s special qualities.
o Set well-defined limits for behavior and enforce them.
o Help your child set reasonable goals so they can achieve success.
o Teach your child to show respect for others.
o Give your children responsibilities so they will feel useful and valued.
o Share favorite activities.
o Use “please” and “thank you” to build self-esteem.
o Hug them!
12 WAYS TO DE-STRESS YOUR CHILD
1. Accept your child’s limitations. For example, a child with the capability to get only B’s will become guilt-ridden if he think’s he’s done his best, but let you down.
2. Talk about your child’s day, ask what went well, or didn’t go well.
3. Encourage your child to express her feelings.
4. Spend some one-on-one time with your child every day.
5. Show your child that you respect people.
6. Acknowledge childhood pressure.
7. Expect some rebellion and remember, “This too shall pass.”
8. Be honest when answering tough questions.
9. Monitor TV and movie viewing.
10. Sympathize with your child when they are hurt or experiencing a loss.
11. Set a good example for your child.
12. Consult a health professional if you think your child is having a problem neither of you can handle.
DEALING WITH SIBLING RIVALRY
o Establish a family code of conduct that is consistently enforced for all children in the family.
o Let siblings settle their own disagreements if possible.
o Spend some time alone with each child.
o Treat each child as a unique individual.
o Provide each child with some private space and possessions of their own.
o Provide a variety of activities for children. Sometimes children fight simply because they are bored.
TIPS FOR DISCIPLINING YOUR CHILD
Choose the following approaches to discipline and alternatives to punishment:
1. Parent Time-Out: Stop and think before acting
2. Focus on Behavior: You still love the child, not
3. Set Limits: Have clear rules and be
4. Review Expectations: Make sure they are in line
with the child’s stage of
5. Positive Communication: State expectations in a
6. Encourage Desirable Behavior: Catch the child “being good”
7. Logical Consequences: If possible, allow the child to experience the consequences
that would logically follow the
8. Time-Out: Make sure the child knows
why they are being separated
9. Problem-Solving: Guide the child to finding his
10. Contract/Reward: Reinforce acceptable behavior